Signs Of Grief In Children and How To Help Them
Grief doesn’t discriminate. Children, just like adults, can experience devastating loss and its difficult emotional journey. However, unlike adults, kids struggle to express their feelings openly. As caregivers, parents, or educators, recognizing the signs of grief in children is the first step in supporting them as they cope with these complicated emotions.
Grief can manifest as a whirlwind of emotions. Children might switch between sadness, anger, confusion, and even moments of apparent normalcy.
What does grief look like in children?
Below are several signs of grief in children. Keep in mind they might experience some or all of these. They may also show different signs at different times. Everyone’s journey through grief is unique, and kids are no exception.
Behavioral changes
Kids often express their grief through new behaviors. Watch out for changes in sleeping patterns, eating habits, or a sudden decline in their academic performance. Some children may become withdrawn, while others might show regressive behaviors like bedwetting or thumb-sucking.
Social withdrawal
Grieving children may withdraw from social activities or isolate themselves from peers. This withdrawal can be an attempt to process their emotions privately, or it may come from a fear of bothering others with their feelings.
Expressive play
Children often communicate their emotions through play. Pay attention to their play activities, as they might use dolls, action figures, or drawings to act out scenes related to their feelings of loss. You can learn more about their emotions this way. It can also offer an avenue for them to process their grief.
Swinging emotions
Grief can manifest as a whirlwind of emotions. Children might switch between sadness, anger, confusion, and even moments of apparent normalcy. Grief doesn’t follow a linear path, and these emotional fluctuations are a natural part of the healing process.
Bodily issues
Sometimes, grief can manifest physically. Kids might complain of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical discomforts with no apparent cause. Paying attention to these complaints and seeking medical advice to rule out any underlying health issues is important.
How can you support a grieving child?
Create a safe space
Establish an environment where they’ll feel comfortable expressing their emotions. Let them know it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Assure them that their feelings are valid and that you are there to listen without judgment. They’ll feel less alone and isolated knowing they can come to you when they’re feeling upset.
Encourage open communication
Gently encourage children to talk about their feelings. Use age-appropriate language and be patient, allowing them to express themselves at their own pace. Ask open-ended questions and actively listen to their responses. Show them you’re a trusted adult who can have meaningful conversations.
Keep a routine
In times of grief, children often find comfort in routine. Stick to regular schedules for meals, bedtime, and daily activities. Set aside time on the weekends for activities outside the house together. Work to give them a sense of stability in the face of this rollercoaster of emotions.
Offer creative outlets
Encourage creativity as a means of expression. Provide art supplies, get them a journal, or engage in activities that allow your kid to channel their emotions in a constructive way. Creativity is a healthy coping mechanism that’s also useful for other issues like anxiety and depression.
Seek professional support
If signs of grief persist or intensify, consider talking to a mental health professional specializing in children’s grief. A therapist can talk with the child and teach them to cope with their emotions as they navigate the grieving process. Therapy is a great way to give kids the tools to handle emotional situations they’ll encounter throughout their adult lives.
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